Gold digger

A young man had come into the ER with his girlfriend for suturing of a cut he had on one of his hands. The procedure was uneventful, but the conversation during the repair was not what I had expected. His girlfriend, Kris, asked, “How much money do you make?” Not wanting to answer that question, I merely smiled. She then speculated, “I bet you make $20 an hour, don't you!”

One of our star nurses, Larry, happened to be in the room at the time, and replied, “He makes more than that!”

Her eyes now gleaming, she said, “Wow!” and continued her speculation. “I bet that you make $40 an hour, don't you?” Again, I smiled and said nothing.

Larry piped in, “Higher!”

Reaching an apoplectic frenzy, Kris blurted out, “I want to date you!”

Mind you, this conversation occurred in front of her boyfriend! I felt sorry for him, as he seemed to be a very nice young man and he certainly did not deserve anyone as shallow as her. I kept wondering what she would have said—or done—if I had told her how much I really make.

In retrospect, I wondered why the boyfriend didn't say anything when she indicated that she wanted to date me because of my income. Not even his countenance gave the slightest clue that he was surprised or upset by this sudden glimpse into her character. Or, perhaps he knew that his time with her was destined to end the minute she found someone with more cash.

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